Incest Part 3 – Let it All Come Out

A teenage girl sits on the edge of the curb all curled up. My heart reaches out to her because I’ve been there. She’s trying to make herself as small as possible to escape notice, hoping to become invisible or at the very least, blend in. Adults have other ways of making themselves invisible. They take little notice of their appearance, gain weight or wear plain, colorless clothes. Women may stop wearing makeup, men might stop shaving.

I went through a season of wearing mostly black. One day, after I’d achieved a measure of healing, I walked into my closet and my eyes were opened. I didn’t consciously choose to have a wardrobe of funeral clothes, but there they were. If anyone would have pointed it out to me, I’d have denied it or come up with a reasonable excuse.

Not everyone fits this scenario, their secret oozes comes out in other ways: alcoholism, drug use, thrill seeking, sexual addiction, promiscuity, crime, poor health, nightmares and low self esteem. No matter how you long to deny it or pretend the incest didn’t happen, it has a way of spilling out.

As a former victim, I can spot the pain and hidden anguish in others. Unfortunately, those who prey on victims also see it and victimize them again.

Stop the cycle. Hanging onto this secret is making your life miserable. It’s time to let it all come out. Share it with someone you love and trust, journal about it, or leave a comment here. The hardest part is beginning to open up. Soon you’ll discover the freedom that comes in releasing it.

Let it All Come Out
by The Newsboys

Who, who’s touched you child? Now you can’t feel a thing,
not anything
Who’s been the one telling you lies? Now you’ll believe anything

OH YOU GOTTA LET, LET IT ALL COME OUT
LET, LET IT ALL COME OUT
RIGHT NOW
RIGHT NOW

How, how many fires, to make you feel pure again, alive again?
And what will it take, what has to break, for you to begin again?
What will it take?

[Repeat Chorus]

Lift yourself out of it all
Come out from the shadows to the sun
Oh you gotta lift yourself out of it all
Yesterday’s over, a new day’s begun
You’re only sick as all your secrets
Let them all come out, let them come
This devil came to steal your name away
This devil came to give your name away

OH LET, LET IT ALL COME OUT
LET, LET IT ALL COME OUT
LET, LET IT ALL COME OUT
RIGHT NOW
RIGHT NOW

This is part three in my series on incest. Click on the links below to read the previous posts:

Incest Part One – The Poisonous Secret
Incest Part Two – PTSD

My BFF, Niki is walking along side me on this journey, please stop over and visit her as well:
Sex, Love and Marriage

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The righteous person faces many troubles, but the Lord comes to the rescue each time. - Psalm 34:19

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